Moving long distance is a very exciting time. It is also a very busy time for the adults in the household and sometimes the children can get lost in all the excitement. However, it is essential for the family to consider how the move will affect the kids; finding out their feelings about the upcoming move.
Preparing your kids for a long distance move varies greatly depending on their ages and individual personalities. There are however some general guidelines to follow that will make the experience more pleasant for them:
Teenagers
Teenagers become more attached to their friends than to their parents. This is a mark of independence and is part of growing up. If your kids are in the 12th grade and are nearly finished high school, consider letting them stay behind to live with other family members or close friends to finish out their high school years. This can be particularly important if the move is to a different province or country where the educational system is different from what they are used to. Continuity of education is important at this stage of their life. Make plans for regular visits or Skype sessions to keep in touch. Kids of this age usually adapt well to this arrangement as opposed to changing schools in their final year of high school.
Competitive Athletes
If your child is a competitive hockey, lacrosse or soccer player or a gymnast take the time to contact the local sports organizations in the new location to find out how they could join in at the new locale. If your child is particularly gifted, get a letter from a current coach to that effect to help make the transition easier. If you just want them to join a team, find out the best way to accomplish this in advance of the move.
Middle School Kids
Children in this group often see a move as an opportunity to start over and to grow as individuals. If they have had any difficulties like shyness or bullying, a new school and new friends can be a positive draw. Include them in house hunting trips and make a visit to the new school. Introduce them to local attractions in the new locale to spur their interest and excitement about what the new location has to offer. If this is not practical, use the internet to identify these attractions. Ask them for their preferences or opinions about potential new homes including what they would ideally want in a new home (big backyard, swimming pool, basement playroom etc.). Get them involved in the move by helping pack some of their things or overseeing the packing done by the mover.
Toddlers and Younger Children
This group is probably the easiest to please. They are too young to have formed solid relationships with friends. For them, keeping to a routine is very important. Make time for them even if you are busy getting ready for the move. Get them involved in the move by choosing special toys to be packed or to take on the trip. A sense of security is essential at this young age.
For more information on getting children ready for a long-distance move, contact Premiere Van Lines at 1-877-671-6683.